False masculinism has become a real plague that’s poisoning our societies, corrupting human relationships, and turning millions of men into pathetic caricatures of themselves. But maybe you think you know what true masculinism is? Nothing could be less certain… So we’re curious to know your opinion on this subject after reading this article.

Feminism is more than legitimate, it’s necessary!

First things first, let’s be crystal clear! There’s absolutely no ambiguity on this subject: Feminism has every reason to exist because discrimination and violence against women are real, massive, and extensively documented.

For the backward folks who still doubt it, the numbers speak for themselves. Most women handle the bulk of domestic mental load. One in three women experiences physical or sexual violence during her lifetime. Street harassment is their daily reality. Femicides are counted in the hundreds every year. In most countries, they got the right to vote less than a century ago. Their bodies are still subject to restrictive legislation. And their word is systematically questioned, especially when filing rape or assault complaints.

Professionally it’s also a scandal because a sort of glass ceiling exists. Management positions remain predominantly male, for example. And so-called “female” professions are systematically underpaid. Women earn on average 15% less than men for equal positions. And the list of injustices is still very long… So feminism is absolutely not some ideological whim as some would have you believe. Because in reality, feminism is a vital necessity to correct centuries of structural oppression. Period.

And alongside all this, we men who are at peace with ourselves need to strongly support this movement by pushing back false masculinism and patriarchy. For the simple and good reason that they poison our lives just as much as they poison women’s lives. And even if it’s sometimes different, it’s just as violent to endure.

What does false masculinism look like?

False masculinism is this ideology that claims to defend men but actually locks them in a mental cage made of stupid stereotypes and toxic behaviors. We could almost laugh about it if the consequences weren’t so dramatic for everyone.

Concretely, false masculinism sells you a simplistic package of what a “real man” should supposedly be. According to self-proclaimed alpha males, a human with XY chromosomes must be strong, dominant, rich, muscular, violent if necessary… and above all never vulnerable. Still according to them, a real man never cries, shouldn’t show his emotions, and must solve all his problems through brute force. Not to mention that he must also consider women as trophies to inflate his ego.

Basically, a false masculinist is the modern version of Cro-Magnon man bringing meat back to the tribe while puffing out his chest and thinking it gives him droit du seigneur over all women. Speaking of meat, that’s also quite a virile symbol. To be convinced, just observe barbecue sessions where the man grills the meat while the lady prepares the salads. Not to mention those who go hunting on weekends to prove they’re real men by killing defenseless animals with their rifles. All of this is part of the ridiculous folklore of toxic masculinity.

But what are their typical profiles? You run into them everywhere and at all levels of society. There’s the Harley biker with his fringed jacket and three-day beard who’s convinced his rebel look makes him unique when he looks like 10 million other guys with exactly the same getup. There’s also the MMA fan who confuses this orgy of extreme violence with real sport. Because this sorry spectacle is just the opposite of noble martial arts like karate, aikido, or kung fu that teach respect and self-control. But all that, the false masculinist knows very well. And too bad if practicing MMA is dangerous as long as you look like some modern-day gladiator. And too bad if watching this butchery consisting of two individuals physically destroying each other is immoral as long as supposedly it’s a spectacle that makes testosterone surge.

And then there are the rappers, these self-proclaimed icons of modern virility. With their wealth exhibition flaunting wads of cash in front of the camera, the big luxury cars parked in front of millionaire villas they don’t even own, their ultra-codified dress codes, women reduced to decorative objects portrayed as submissive and stupid bimbos who only serve as props. Not to mention of course the hyper-verbal violence they call “punchlines” and their assumed physical violence that sometimes goes as far as committing murders to look like real tough guys. Supposedly it’s culture. But we call it destroying the brains of young people who listen to this crap on loop. Yeah, we know not all rap is like that. But let’s be honest, we’re still talking about at least 90% of mainstream production. Besides, false masculinist propaganda doesn’t just go through rap. Because certain types of rock, country, or electronic music convey exactly the same toxic values, just dressed differently. And as surprising as it may seem, certain classical music with martial sonorities also comforts certain so-called alpha males in their cultural misery.

But false masculinism isn’t limited to obvious caricatures because it deeply irrigates the entire social pyramid. It starts at the bottom with the tyrannical petty boss. That notorious incompetent who rules his open space with terror because the little power he’s been given gives him a feeling of omnipotence. You also have the patriarch who transforms his family into a permanent war zone by yelling at his kids and wife to mask his total inability to communicate normally. And the higher you climb the hierarchy, the more sophisticated it becomes, but just as violent. Like executives and CEOs on LinkedIn who use their hypocritical polite formulas to mask daily psychological brutality made of humiliations, submission to the boss, and pathetic little power games.

And at the very top of this pyramid of stupidity you have the billionaires. These guys who think they’re above the law, above taxes, and downright above humanity itself. Because in their heads, their money gives them all rights. Even the right to be violent in their words and actions. But why would it stop when we see they never face consequences for their misdeeds and there are still millions of individuals to admire them? And let’s not forget politicians, especially far-right ones, whose virility oozes from every speech. Because bashing the poor, rejecting differences, and spewing their contempt throughout rallies to try to elevate themselves in the eyes of the naive supposedly proves their supposed strength… and therefore their so-called ability to lead.

And now here comes a new generation of politicians completely stuffed with all these totally stupid codes. Mandatory three-day beard, tattoos, gym five times a week because a real man is necessarily muscular. And of course, always the same angry speeches on social media as their elders. But much more violent and vulgar in form. So no reason to hope for change in the short term because this phenomenon unfortunately tends rather to grow.

Especially since false masculinism’s grip is absolutely everywhere! And television is its best indicator. Proof: Turn on your TV at any hour and you’ll see a parade of films and series focused on violence and very clear gender differentiation. And to drive the point home, between two action scenes without any suspense, you get completely sexist commercials created by advertisers who know their target audience perfectly. The wife does laundry and raves about the whiteness of the clothes, the husband tinkers in his garage with his big tools, cars are sold with very sexualized chicks, and men’s perfumes promise to transform any simpleton into an irresistible sexual predator. And the most revolting thing in all this is that we even find all these macho stereotypes in children’s programs. So in the end, it doesn’t fool anyone. Because under their false inclusive and progressive appearances to seem modern, television content remains actually shaped by men to legitimize patriarchy. That explains everything.

And ultimately, the real tragedy of the false masculinist is that he constantly self-intoxicates in an infernal spiral from which he can no longer escape. Because if you look closely at his environment, everything is calibrated to keep him in his mental prison. He has masculinist buddies who validate his behavior, he eats masculinist with his steak and beer, he watches his brutish action films where the “real” men solve everything with guns and fists, he watches his guy sport like MMA or soccer, he practices his hobbies like hunting or “sport” shooting, he has his masculinist readings that under the guise of personal development explain how to become a super alpha, and he only listens to masculinist music that glorifies violence and reduces women to objects. So in the middle of all this mess, how do you expect him to realize he’s totally lame and prisoner of his own codes when absolutely nothing in his ecosystem offers him a different perspective? The question is asked.

Why do false masculinists poison our lives?

We just saw the typical profiles of false masculinism and the omnipresence of this toxic ideology in our societies. Now let’s look concretely at how it literally poisons everyone’s daily life.

First, it locks men who follow the path of false masculinism in a suffocating emotional prison. Because from childhood, boys are told that a man doesn’t cry, that showing emotions is being a little girl, that vulnerability is weakness… Result: millions of boys grow up repressing everything they feel. Consequently, they’re incapable of talking about their problems, asking for help, or even simply saying they’re scared or sad. And this inability to manage emotions leads directly to violence, addictions, depression, and even suicide. By the way, men commit suicide three times more than women and it’s no coincidence. It’s just the direct consequence of this toxic masculinity that forbids them from displaying the full palette of their humanity.

Then there’s violence as the only mode of conflict resolution. False masculinism teaches men that physical strength is the answer to everything. A problem at work, a marital dispute, any frustration, and the most obvious solution is to yell, hit, and crush the other. Women are the first victims with domestic violence affecting tens of thousands of victims every year. But men themselves destroy each other in this permanent race to prove who’s strongest, who dominates whom, and who has the biggest penis. Because “small penis” is the supreme insult among false masculinists. Which shows it doesn’t take much to frustrate them.

There’s also manspreading, which isn’t just a story of guys spreading their legs on the subway. It’s also a whole attitude that consists of taking up all the space physically, but especially intellectually. This translates to the false masculinist speaking loudly, interrupting without even trying to apologize, imposing his opinions as absolute truths, and seeking to devalue at all costs anyone who dares contradict him. And this form of violence affects everyone, not just women. Because normal men, those who prefer listening rather than dominating, they also get crushed by these brutes who confuse volume with argument relevance. Just look at what happens in work meetings, public debates, and discussions among friends. As soon as there’s a false masculinist in the loop, it’s always the same pattern: He raises his voice to prove he’s right when most of the time he’s talking nonsense.

And then there’s the whole delusion around appearances and stupid dress codes. A boy who wants to wear pink, play with dolls, or simply be gentle and creative immediately gets called deviant, or worse. As a result, men are locked in hyper-rigid codes where the slightest deviation is violently sanctioned. No bright colors, no jewelry that’s confusing, no makeup… Everything is done to stifle individuality and creativity in favor of deadly conformity. Just observe the visceral hatred of false masculinists toward drag queens to realize the extent of the problem.

The relationship with money and wealth is also completely rotten. For the false masculinist, money is power. And therefore ultimate proof of his value. Hence this stupid race for outward signs of wealth: the big car, the luxury watch, the villa with pool… In short, everything that displays supposed superiority. This obsession with domination through money justifies all kinds of dirty deeds: employee exploitation, tax evasion, corruption, keeping one’s partner in financial dependence… everything’s allowed as long as it pays and places you above others.

The link between masculinism and conspiracism isn’t coincidental either. Because false masculinists need to feel rebellious. So they compensate by believing they’re smarter than everyone with their bogus theories that comfort them in their positions. Suddenly, they’re no longer in the herd of weaklings among the woke. No, they become enlightened ones who discovered the truth that all the sheep ignore. As a result, conspiracism allows them to transform their mediocrity into fantasized superiority. Which represents for them a permanent revenge against intellectuals, against those who actually studied, actually reflected, and actually understood the richness of diversity.

The useful idiots serving false masculinism

We just saw that false masculinism is a real calamity. But wanting to summarize it through the prism of some kind of gender war is seriously lacking nuance and risks missing all the problems. Because feminism doesn’t equal all women are feminists. And being a man doesn’t equal being necessarily against feminism. As a result, the reality is that some women, and many more than we think, also have their share of responsibility in toxic masculinity. Because not only do they support it by finding it normal, but they also raise their boys in the exact perpetuation of the toxic masculinity pattern.

And on this subject I know exactly what I’m talking about because I was unfortunately raised in a very reactionary environment with old-fashioned values that corresponded exactly to that. Sorry, I had absolutely nothing to do with it. I was just born somewhere. And it took me time to fully open my eyes and realize it was crap and evolve. It wasn’t very easy because it’s the kind of path you take alone at first.

Until I was 20 I was carefree. And then gradually, I started asking myself questions like: These biases that come to mind, is it really you or is it what they stuffed in your skull at the age when your brain is a real sponge? And then the biases gradually faded to finally disappear over about ten years. And now, things that seemed almost normal to me at 20 deeply shock me. Do I blame my parents for it? The answer is yes. Without any hesitation.

So there you have it, this moment of sincerity was to emphasize that trad wives are no better than sinister false masculinists like Putin, Trump, or P. Diddy. And I’d even go so far as to say they’re worse because they’re real traitors to their cause who feed their own current and future oppression by perpetuating patriarchy. And at the end of the story, because of these women, it’s all of society that suffers because of the tyrants they created with their toxic education. So fighting false masculinism isn’t a question of war between women and men. It’s about enlightened people who decided to fight false masculinism by exposing its major weaknesses and its destructive side that’s undeniably inspired by nihilism. And to win this fight, it doesn’t matter whether you’re a man or woman, or even a person who doesn’t define themselves in either of these genders, because all that matters is managing to push back patriarchy until we eradicate it.

But actually what is being a true masculinist?

Now that we’ve thoroughly dissected everything wrong with false masculinism, it’s time to ask the real question: What is being a true masculinist? Because yes, there is legitimate masculinism and it deserves to be discussed seriously.

A true masculinist is a man who claims his right to be fully human. That is, a complete being with the full palette of emotions and sensitivities that implies. For example, the true masculinist cries when he’s sad, expresses his fear when necessary, asks for help when he needs it, and shares his feelings freely. This ability to fully experience emotions, that’s real strength.

True masculinism also means cultivating your feminine side. That gentle, creative, and empathetic side that makes you a balanced person. Because sensitivity is a quality, listening is a valuable skill, and artistic or intellectual creativity deeply enriches existence. A complete man therefore embraces all these aspects of his personality without any complex.

True masculinists try to build peaceful relationships with everyone. Authentic exchanges based on mutual respect founded on genuine dialogue. According to this pattern, women are alter egos with whom to build enriching relationships based on complementarity of respective personalities. Other men are potential partners with whom to move forward together, not rivals.

And speaking of this complementarity. The true masculinist doesn’t seek equality as an abstract concept because it already exists in his head. He seeks complementarity. Not this stupid story where the man is supposed to be strong and open jam jars while the lady does something else. No, true complementarity is recognizing that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, regardless of gender. You’re better at this task and me at that one. It happens consciously or unconsciously. A good couple relationship must be based on this complementarity and not on power struggles. So here’s the secret of couples who grow old happily: They form a team that moves forward with cohesion.

This search for complementarity requires permanent and intelligent adaptation. If both work, both take care of the baby. If dad takes a sabbatical year to take care of his child while mom works, the division of tasks isn’t the same during this period. The important thing is just to find the compromises that work for each situation taking into account that situations constantly change. And to do this, there’s no ready-made formula with stupid 50/50. There’s simply an understanding to find, which between good people happens mostly tacitly.

The true masculinist is of course also capable of seduction and can express his sexual desires. He initiates seduction games because that’s how couples or casual liaisons form. But he perfectly understands when it doesn’t work and moves on. And it’s not difficult to understand when someone isn’t interested. In any case, yes means yes and no means no. And maybe means I need time. So respect and nuance are at the heart of every true masculinism interaction. And this has nothing to do with any emasculation! Because not being a huge jerk is undoubtedly the best prerequisite for seducing a partner.

A true masculinist constantly evolves because he listens to the world. He questions his certainties, he learns, so he grows. This openness to change, this ability to question himself, is what allows him to become better by exploring all the possibilities of being himself without locking himself in stereotypes.

In short, the true masculinist seeks to live as fulfilling a life as possible. Not fulfilling in the sense that everything would be perfect, because perfection isn’t of this world. But fulfilling in the sense that he’s at peace with himself and with others as much as possible.

But careful! Being a true masculinist doesn’t mean being naive or letting yourself get walked over. Because just because you advocate dialogue and listening doesn’t mean you become a doormat anyone can wipe their feet on. So if force is necessary to protect yourself or keep an aggressive false masculinist in check, there’s no problem with that. Because a true masculinist or a feminist can also get angry. Simply because anger is an emotion that inhabits every human being. So let’s not lie to ourselves saying we can become more zen than a Tibetan monk. So the real problem is rather managing this anger: Knowing who or what it’s directed at, understanding whether it’s legitimate or not, knowing how to express it constructively rather than destructively, and especially not making it your permanent operating mode.

That’s true masculinism: A movement that frees men from the patriarchal yoke so they become complete human beings. And it’s exactly to achieve this goal that the feminist movement and the true masculinist movement go in exactly the same direction toward more humanity, more freedom, and more authenticity for everyone.

How to get out of false masculinism?

What if the key to success for annihilating false masculinism was hidden in a quote from a 90s film? Because in Danny Boyle’s film Trainspotting, the main character, Mark Renton, drops this prophetic line: “In the future, there’ll be no men, there’ll be no women… just wankers. And it’ll be beautiful.” At first glance it sounds like pure cynicism, but if we dig a little, this futuristic vision might contain exactly what we need to evolve in the right direction?

Imagine a world where parents would do their job by raising their boys without instilling toxic masculinist biases in them. A world where school would integrate active deconstruction of toxic masculinity into its programs by teaching children from a very young age for example that there are no jobs for girls and others for boys, that there are no forbidden colors, and that there’s no mandatory way to be a man or woman.

Imagine that we communicate massively on this subject and that adult men become aware that their toxic masculinism poisons their lives and those around them. That they accept getting help from a shrink if needed to deconstruct everything that was stuffed in their skulls during childhood. Because after all, it’s never too late to evolve. Whether you’re 25, 40, or 60, you can always choose to become someone better. The only brake is in your head.

So if in the end we manage to do all that, feminism and true masculinism will gradually lose their reasons to exist. Not because we’ll have abandoned the fight, but because we’ll have won it. Simply because there’ll be no more men and women locked in stupid roles, and no more non-binary people marginalized for not fitting in boxes. So there’ll just be human beings, all different, but all equal in their right to be themselves. In short, there’ll just be wankers who’ll be happy to be. And honestly, that would be beautiful.

Conclusion – Let’s win the battle of words first

Words have meaning, words have power. So with this story of false masculinist versus true masculinism am I doing gratuitous provocation? Absolutely not!

Because every time I see big retrograde idiots who call themselves masculinists, as a male individual, I feel deeply insulted by these pathetic characters. So as a result, I refuse to let my healthy masculinity be sullied by reactionary concepts. And it would be the same if someone tried to distort my feminine side to drag it through the mud.

So, false masculinists, machos, toxic males, so-called alphas, violent individuals, far-right bros, trad wives… understand this well: The words “masculinist” and “masculinism” are no longer yours! Because they now belong to all progressives who have the right understanding of what good human relationships should be. So from now on, find yourself another label. Like “voluntary mental backward” or any other denomination that clearly defines what you are. And leave real men alone. Thanks.

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